So sorry, this is just a thought I had while watching Bachelor in Paradise:
It’s interesting how when men give unwanted attention to women (and other men), it’s seen as “consistent” and “bold” and you’re told that “he just really likes you” but if a woman were to do it, it’s seen as “psychotic”. And I think a large part of that reality is because a lot of women are taught to be nice and unproblematic, which problematically attracts these types of men and we’re kind of at a loss of what to do when it gets to that point. You’re taught to be “nice” all of your life and you suddenly can’t tell the difference between standing up for yourself and being rude—because at times, you’ve seen it as synonymous. I’m so tired of this “cat and mouse” dynamic that a lot of people have grown up with. If someone says, or even hints, that they’re uninterested, leave them alone until they make it CLEAR that they are. It’s as simple as that. Consent, in all aspects of a relationship, is everything.
Through the Softest Eyes 